Are you unhappy? Do you feel like you’re missing something in your life? While there are plenty of things to worry about, don’t let the stress of work and family problems keep you from feeling truly happy. It might seem impossible to balance your personal and career lives with your social life, but it’s not impossible to attain true happiness in life. Here are 7 steps to happiness that can help you live more joyfully and peacefully today!
Although there are people who are chemically depressed, which means they are depressed for no reason, happiness is something most of us can choose. Happiness comes from doing things, not from thinking. When you start to think about whether you are happy or not, you are no longer happy. You are only happy if you do not think, just do it, and in the end, you will be happy.
Steps To Happiness
Remember, in order for any of these tips to work you must actually be sure and try to do them. Again, they will not work through intellectualization because once you begin to intellectualize whether you’re happy or not, you are no longer happy for you lost that elusive moment of happiness that you may have had. So work hard at these steps, practice them all at once, practice them one at a time if you want to, but be bold, and practice them – to transform your life.
Smile right now. No matter what you are doing, or what you have been through today, you will feel a lot better now because you smiled. Smiling is a huge turn-on to people, it makes you and others feel good. However, that’s not all, smiling projects an aura of self-confidence. It tells people, “I’m in charge of myself and therefore I want to make you feel better“. If you want people to come to you, don’t forget to project a healthy smile at you. Even when you’re sad, fake it. Your brain can’t tell the difference between a fake smile and a real smile, you will become happier automatically when you smile.
Exercising releases endorphins that make you happy. Any type of exercise is fine, treadmill, weights, dancing, etc. Just as long as you do it and enjoy it. Then be bold, a bit more magic will begin to occur, as happiness will mysteriously strike your life. Of course, you know that they are not coincidences that you had to perform the “magical tricks,” or boldness to make these coincidences become a reality in your life.
One of the steps to happiness is learning how to set boundaries. This means knowing what you will and will not tolerate in your life. It also means learning to say no when you need to, even if it’s difficult. Setting boundaries can be hard, but it’s necessary if you want to be happy.
Here are a few tips:
- 1. Be clear about your boundaries. Make sure you know what they are and that they are realistic.
- 2. Communicate your boundaries to others. Let them know what they are so there aren’t any misunderstandings. You may have to let people go from your life who don’t respect your boundaries.
- 3. Take care of yourself first and foremost by making sure you’re taking care of yourself emotionally, physically, spiritually, and socially before you try to take care of anyone else or anything else.
- 4. Give yourself permission to have everything you deserve – love, safety, respect, self-confidence – without guilt or shame.
As far as you’re concerned, only the present moment exists, as it’s the only moment you can do anything about. Yesterday and tomorrow are out of your control at the present time. Only today can be changed, so it’s the only thing that matters. When you concentrate on yesterday or tomorrow, you stifle your ability to take advantage of the present moment which you can change. Moreover, the present moment has magic in it, as well.
You now know that smiling portrays a feeling of self-confidence. However, there are also other factors that show that you’re confident. Any positive interaction you can have with people portrays confidence. This means doing things that make the other person feel comfortable. This includes smiling as mentioned earlier, but it also includes making eye contact and nodding your head when somebody is talking to you.
Any positive interaction you can have with a person raises your self-esteem and your confidence level, as well. It shows you that you can interact with people and get the most out of conversations. Confidence is also gained by all the steps covered here: being in the present moment, exercising, being bold, etc. Happiness is a domino effect, if you’re happy (perhaps by making yourself feel happy through smiling), other people will see that you’re happy and will want to join in on your party.
If you let them join your party, you will become even happier. When you’re confident, no matter how much nonsense you may say, people will still listen to you a lot more than if you were to say something profound but you were to say it with a lack of confidence. In summary, confidence gives you power over yourself, and having power over yourself brings you happiness.
Have A Positive Attitude
Your outside is a reflection of your inside. If you are positive on the inside, your outside will appear as a positive world. If you are negative on the inside, the outside will seem gloomy. The point of all of this is that you should work on the inside, your attitude, and eventually, your outside will seem bright. Your attitude determines your altitude. You can only go as high as determined by how positive your attitude is. If you have a positive expectancy inside that things are going to go well for you, good fortune will soon come to you. If the opposite is true, you have a negative expectancy, then negative events will keep reoccurring in your life.
Do not Take Things Personally
There is only one perfect way to deal with people who tease you or put you down: do absolutely nothing. If you take it personally and get aggressive, then they will find more ways to put you down, and you will become very unhappy. You try to punch them, and you sink down to their level. However, if you don’t take things personally, instead, be quiet and let them speak their “nonsense,” they will soon become baffled. They will look and feel dumb as they will have nothing more to say (that anyone will hear) and eventually they will have to shut up.
It’s like a class clown who eventually shuts up when nobody is laughing. Doing this avoids conflict and solves the whole problem without any effort being expended on your part and plenty of energy being expended on theirs. Understand that they themselves must have low self-esteem if they feel that they have to put somebody down in order to make themselves feel better. If you feel bad, and retaliate, then you are showing them that you have low self-esteem yourself, again, but it bears repeating, you will sink down to their level. For if your self-esteem is high and you’re happy, you won’t care what anybody else says because you will be happy no matter what.
Always remember Abraham Lincoln’s quote, “people are only as happy as they make up their minds up to be.”
So there you have them, those are the seven steps to happiness. Hopefully, you realize, from these seven steps, becoming happy is a lot easier than we think. Simply getting in the habit of smiling all day will increase your happiness tremendously. The problem for most of us is that we get lazy and expect the world to cater to our needs. That’s never going to happen because everybody else wants their own needs catered to. Therefore, we must become happy ourselves, so we can radiate energy to help other people.
Nobody can make you feel happy, but yourself. Your outside is a reflection of your inside, if you’re not happy inside, the outer world will be gloomy. You have to make yourself happy, then you can cater the world to other people, and become even happier by making other people happy.