Personality is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make an individual distinctive. When we say that someone has a “good personality” we mean they are likable, interesting, and pleasant to be with. Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a decent personality is important – probably more than good looks. So let’s discuss some simple tips to develop a strong personality.
We, humans, have the ability and skills to shape our personalities; however, we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can be, we contribute to our own, and the happiness of others. Having a pleasing, engaging personality is significantly related to Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ). Those of us possessing high EI invariably have great personalities.
While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the ability to improve our personality as much as we want.
Be a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the ability to be an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would confidently look a person in the eyes, hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel you’re the only person in the world.
Read more and expand your interests.
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people, it gives you the opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them. People will listen to you, learn from you, and they would enjoy spending time with you.
Be a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and understand. Once you have got a lot to contribute, learn how to represent it with others. No one can read about or know everything, so it’s refreshing to learn from others those things we don’t have the time to about read ourselves. If you are shy, join a group that encourages you to talk about what you know.
Have an Opinion.
There is nothing more tiresome than attempting to talk to somebody who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to speak about it. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion; you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially (unless you’re a know-it-all). A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.
Meet New People
Attempt to meet new people, especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, but it also broadens your horizons.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something you’re not. Molding yourself to fit in, or be accepted, usually backfires. Since each of us is different, expressing that uniqueness makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat but also reveals a lack of authenticity.
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, we mostly try to run away when we see them coming. Instead, be the upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the positive side in people and things. Smile warmly spread good cheer…
Be humor-fun and see the humorous side of life
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh, or smile so look for the humorous, quirky side in a situation – there always is one. Comic relief is much welcome and needed diversion. When you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull or gloomy setting, it will naturally attract others to you, not to mention grateful.
Be supportive of others
Being supportive is perhaps the most lovable quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our corner; somebody who is encouraging believes in us and helps pick us up when we’re down.
Have integrity and treat people with respect.
Being honest and faithful to your word will bring you the admiration, respect, and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person’s personality more than integrity and respect – respect for others and respect for ourselves.
More good personality development tips at a glance:
- Keep a smart head and keep cool.
- Copy no one.
- Create your own personal style
- Don’t doubt yourself.
- Learn From Mistake
- Learn to have patience and concentrate on your communication skills. Be polite and gentle with your words.
- Be executive in dress
- Don’t shout or be aggressive.
- Be more passionate about your work and be optimistic.
- Accept and Recognize Your Weak Points
- Learn to appreciate others. .
- Time Management
“No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.” ― Madonna