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Tuesday, February 5, 2019

10 TIPS To Overcome Laziness

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Tips To Stop Being Lazy      It happens to all of us. Sometimes, we just don't feel like doing anything, be it work, chores, or whatever… it's easier to chill out, relax, and forget about responsibilities. But what if this turns into a habit, and things start to pile up? Laziness can have a negative effect on both your personal and professional life. If it seems like you've slipped into a lazy cycle and you’re being unproductive, you should consider the following tips to get your life back on track!
 1 - Make Sure You're Not Overwhelmed 
    Sometimes, we have so much to do, that we just get overwhelmed, and then we end up doing nothing. It’s necessary to own realistic expectations regarding what you’re really ready to accomplish. If you have too much on your plate and no idea how you're gonna get it all done, you may just be overwhelmed, and not necessarily lazy.
2 - Get Motivated 
    Most of the time, laziness is due to a lack of motivation. Try to inspire yourself by thinking about the importance of whatever it's you wish to try and do. And if it's hard for you to stay motivated, here’s something you can try… Make a list of key points or reasons that you can reference when you need an extra push.
3 - Value Your Time
    Make the time you spend working on your tasks productive. Look at your to-do list and prioritize. This will make it harder for deadlines to sneak up on you, and easier to work productively - even if it's in short bursts.
 4 - Think About The Benefits
    Focusing on the difficulties of carrying out a task, leads to discouragement, avoidance of taking action, and laziness. Instead of thinking about the difficulties or obstacles, think about the benefits you will gain once you start taking action. When you concentrate on advantages and goals, productivity becomes much more rewarding. Learn the worth of every task and so work towards it.
 5 - Think About The Consequences
    Think about what will happen if you don't get your task or chore done. In most cases, merely considering the results of not acting, can push you to take action!
6 - Switch Things Up
     If you tend to leave the most complicated or tough tasks for last, switch it up, and begin doing those things first. You don't want to spread yourself too thin. Pick one or two things to focus on and fully devote yourself to working on those tasks. Remember, you have to work to reach your goal; it's not going to happen right away.
 7 - Track Your Progress
     Sticking to new changes can be challenging. Tracking results is an effective way to help make new habits stick. If you can see that ‘holding yourself accountable’ is helping you reach your goal, it will be much easier to keep up.

ALSO, READ: Never put off for tomorrow, What you can do today.

8 - Schedule Break Times
     You need to take an occasional break, but make sure that time is limited, so you don't lose momentum. For example, you could commit to working on your tasks for the first 45 minutes of every hour and then take a 15-minute break.
 9 - Look For Alternatives
     Is there a better, or more efficient way to do things? Think of ways you can be more effective. You’ll find that the more you streamline, automate, delegate, and outsource, the more you’ll get done with the same level of effort.
10 - Take Some Time Off
    Perhaps you're just too tired… With work, school, and all other stresses of everyday life, it can get pretty difficult to wake up early, exercise, get chores done, and do whatever else you need to do. It's easy to fall behind once you feel exhausted. If you're feeling such as you got to take a bit time to recharge, then take it!
     No one is immune to occasional laziness. However, it's how you deal with it and motivate yourself that can keep you on the right track. Everyone has a growing to-do list, and it can sometimes feel overwhelming. Overcoming laziness is achieved through a series of daily actions and activities - by choosing to act, instead of remaining passive. And every time you choose to act, you increase your ability to win, achieve goals and improve your life. So start right now! Develop the self-discipline you need, and get your works done!
     Did you find these tips helpful? How do YOU deal with laziness? Don’t be lazy! Please comment below. Thank You


Friday, January 25, 2019

Personality Development Tips

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 What is personality? I think it's an inside-out thing and in general, I would say it's a composite of your thoughts your feelings and your actions and all of these can be improved on many levels.
     Being a human being, you need to understand that besides attaining your personal goals, dealing with others and coping with situations in life as they happen is also very important. Personality development refers to a process whereby you increase your efficiency and enhance yourself as a person achieving success in all your endeavors. There are some very good Personality Development Tips to help you improve as a person and achieve a lot more than you actually have. Remember, it is an ongoing process and never ends, and so these 8 amazing Personality Development Tips need to adhere to no matter at what stage of your career or life you are in.

1. Keep flashing a sunny smile- People underestimate the significance of a bright smile and keep a frown on their face. A smile conveys a positive signal to others and you are perceived as a warm person ready to accept others. People find it easy to work and interact with you.
2. Experience Diverse Things- Doing a lot of things widens your horizons and perspective. It also helps in developing people skills, which is one of the many important Personality Development Tips.
3. Practice and adopt a more optimistic outlook on life.- Nobody likes being around somebody who's pessimistic, always talking about the negative, ever looking at the good and anything right. Well, this is something that you have to change. If you are persistently and consistently talking about negative things, acknowledge that you're doing it and then work on developing a more positive outlook all. Sometimes simply look at it things a little bit differently can make all the difference in the world .
4.Say Thank You- People appreciate you when they know that you remember their efforts. Being social helps in myriad ways and you will be surprised how others are more than ready to help you when you are in distress.
5. Be Responsible- Do not always crib about things and other people. Do not blame others for your failures and take responsibility for your actions. This is one of those Personality Development Tips that lets others perceive you as a reliable person. Take responsibility for your actions, your thoughts your feelings and that will definitely improve your personality and people will admire you for it. They might not like everything you're doing, but you will get involved in the end.
6. Have the ability to laugh at yourself. - This is easier said than done and until you actually have a secure sense of self and feel good about who you are and comfortable in your own skin ,you're probably not going to be able to do that . it's something that I feel people with good personalities have in common
7. Do things  every day to facilitate and develop your confidence. -When you feel good about who you are, your confidence will increase. You're going to be like oh I feel great about myself and that is going to transition and transcend every aspect of your life including your personality.
8. Be grateful always -Get into a state of continuous gratitude because that is also a highly spiritual stage where you're attracting good to you. So practice being grateful for anything and everything. start out early in the morning. Just as you take your first breath in the morning be grateful for that you're actually breathing.
      Personality Development Tips are for everyone and not just for those facing this or the other problem in their lives. You will be surprised at how just a little effort on your part by making use of these Personality Development Tips you can bring about a world of difference in the quality of your life, not to mention the success that you will achieve.

Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Find An Extra Hour Daily To Transform Your Life

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     You are already thinking that this is impossible as your day is already full – you go to bed late and still don’t have everything done, right? Well, I think the same way occasionally until I make time to review my time. But, have you taken a few minutes to really review your schedule and activities to see if you can find an hour for yourself by stealing a little bit of time from other activities?
     Everyone needs a little quiet time because, without it, stress, depression, and anxiety tend to creep into our lives. Creating an extra hour each day for reflection can really pay off over time. You’ll realize that the standard of your life improves after you create time to mirror on your goals, dreams, and needs.
    Focusing your mind on what is most important to you, enables you to go after those dreams with a passion and bring them to life. Try these ideas to find that extra time to reflect:
    Re-purpose some of your TV time.
      Television is a significant time waster. Most people average 4+ hours of TV per day. If that’s you, this is an easy place to find an hour.
  Spend less time on the internet.
     The net is a great source of information, but it’s also an easy place to spend a lot of unproductive time. For example, how much time do you spend on social media websites reading about what your friends are having for dinner? Really? Just cut back and use the time for yourself.
  Early to bed, early to rise… 
     If you can get up an hour earlier, that’s an hour you have to yourself. There’s something quiet and peaceful about the morning that you don’t get at other times of the day.
  Limit your email time.
      Plan a specific amount of time, once per day, to check and reply to emails.
 Cut out some shopping.
      Drop all your shopping (except grocery shopping) for a month. It’s just a month. You can go for a month without buying anything, can’t you? If that seems like too long, try two weeks.
 Drop some of the extraneous after work activities.
       Instead of all the other things you might have planned, use some of this time for yourself.
 Ration your reading time.
      Keep the most important parts of your reading activity and limit the non-essential reading to a set amount of time each day.
 Cut down on your playtime. 
     It’s certainly important for your wellbeing to take time to relax and participate in activities that you enjoy. However, if you find that you play video games for hours at a time or spend frequent evenings out on the town, perhaps you can shave a little of this time off for reflection.
      These are 8 ways you can find another hour, and you can easily find 8 more. If you use just 4 of these ideas each day, you would only have to cut out 15 minutes of each activity to find your hour.

How can you use that hour to create a more fulfilling life? Try these tips:

1. Review your goals.
    Remind yourself of your goals every day. How are things progressing? Is your plan to reach your goals moving you forward? Just reading them each day is helpful.
2. Think about your day.
    Each day, ask yourself what you’ve learned. What did you do well? What mistakes did you make? Can you make choices that serve you better? How? What are you grateful for today?
Imagine if each day were a little better than the last, on the average. What would your life be like a year from now?
3. Meditate. Escape the hustle and bustle of life and quiet your mind.
4. Journal.
   You’ll be shocked at how much you can learn about yourself when you write down your feelings. Plus, a journal gives you a venue to write about your challenges, reduce your stress about them, and work through them to find solutions.

    Give yourself the gift of an extra hour each day for reflection. An hour a day can be transformational – find your hour and take advantage of it.

Friday, December 28, 2018

Steps to Discover Your Life Purpose and Gain Self Confidence

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        “The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” 
         Discovering your life purpose is not an easy process. Ask someone what their purpose in life is, what do you think you will receive as an answer? Possibly a fuzzy list of goals or maybe responsibilities, for example, to be the best parent; be an honest person; be a true friend. Although these are important, who doesn’t want to be the best parent, or an honest person or be a true friend? What you want and need is a specific, defined purpose for your life, a purpose which you are passionate about, a purpose which helps you to understand that you are living for something bigger than yourself. To accomplish this, you need to move beyond this “fuzzy” list of goals.
          Do you think you can succeed as a wandering generality or do you need to become a meaningful specific? In the book “Over the Top”, Zig Ziglar thinks you need to become the meaningful specific. Are you really ready to go? If so, it’s time to get very detailed regarding your purpose here in this life. To get started, these strategies may help you to find your life purpose and gain self-confidence.

Find the purpose .. your life, your purpose.

        There is so much noise going on in your mind and around you, you are unable to hear the internal dialogue of the important things. You must let go of all this noise in order to find your purpose and hear the really important dialogue. It’s not to say that what’s going on in the outside is not important. But other people give us so many opinions, requests and suggestions about how things should be, we do not even try to hear our own dialogue or consider what is important to us. It’s your life and your purpose, make the effort to consult with the most important person, yourself.
        Your growth spiritually and personally is your responsibility. Many people may be telling what you should and should not do with your life, but it is not anyone else’s responsibility, again,, it is your life, your purpose. Filter these other things out by creating “selective ignorance”, Once you do this, your focus can move to the skill needed to help find your purpose. As you take on this responsibility, you will gain self-confidence.

Start to hear your internal dialogue
        The one critical step is to start creating self-awareness. Find YOUR specific purpose. Begin by listening to yourself. To help cut out all the other noise, you should begin by keeping a daily journal of your thoughts. Benjamin Franklin, the great inventor, said: “If you’re not to be forgotten when you’re dead and rotten, either do things worth writing about or write things worth reading about.” Many great men and women in history invested the time to write in their daily journals, keeping track of their thoughts and reflections. There is no question, these actions had an impact on their self-confidence and achievements.
     Writing can clarify the multitude of thoughts going around in your head all day long. Writing focuses your mind to bring about this clarity.
      In addition to writing your thoughts down, ask yourself questions which relate to your purpose and write down these answers. For instance: “What do I want to be remembered for? “ and “Before I die, what are the things I want to complete?… By asking these questions you are developing a new skill. The skill is interpreting your thoughts and listening to your inner dialogue. Your answers will start to become clear and detailed, creating your purpose.

You will find Your Life Purpose By Beginning the Journey

        Don’t wait for the inspiration to come to you, go after it.  Your mind needs some help. Begin feeding it materials which will help you further understand your own desires. Someone has walked before you and has done something similar.
        Give yourself time and opportunity to become a reader ( audiobooks, podcasts, and videos work) and researcher of the subjects you’re interested in. Along with your journaling, you will succeed in finding your life purpose. You will gain self-confidence at each step in this process. Taking responsibility and taking action will increase your self-confidence.
 I hope you like this article. Please share your thoughts and experiences on improving self-confidence and discovering your life purpose

Thank You..


Sunday, November 11, 2018


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      I was just in a conversation with someone who’s life is completely consumed by negative thinking. He has been this way for so long do you think it’s even possible to change his way of thinking? I do, but I believe that person has to have the desire to want to change. This person was speaking negatively about situations that hadn’t even happened yet.

      I personally believe that positive thinking is more than just a frame of mind though. I look at positive thinking in terms of phases:

1.) Admit that you aren’t thinking positive and want to change those thoughts.

2.) Feed your mind with positive “things”

    a.) Books- Try to read self help books and biography of successful will encourage you to   change yourself for better life.

    b.) Internet web sites and articles-- Read articles and watch videos that will help you to grow your personal and professional life

     c.) Environments-- Try to be in positive environment as much as possible


3.) Change your surroundings, yes this can even include family members and friends.

4.) Find people that encourage you and make you feel more positive.

5.) Learn to sense your negative thinking and stop it in its tracks. Change those negative thoughts into positive ones.

6.) Pray and read God’s word to see all of the amazing things he has promised us and believe in them!

Thursday, November 1, 2018


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      Two years ago I suffered low grade chronic fatigue syndrome symptoms. So energy is now a precious commodity to me. Health issues are one thing, but there are some other energy zappers and power parasites we can look at.
   Have you ever noticed, that different tasks require different types of energy? Some things don’t require much energy at all, like watching t.v. At The other end of the scale, are things that require more energy or focus, such as book work or phoning for me.
   Also have you ever noticed that it’s impossible to be depressed when you have good energy! Energy is a fragile thing some days.

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Tips To Getting Things Done With Others Through Mutual Trust And Understanding


   Mutual Trust

    Mutual trust is the basic ingredient of all honest and effective human relationships. The husband and wife, the employer and employee, the customer and salesperson, the student and teacher, and members of the same team must be fastened with the bond of mutual trust or the relationship becomes ineffective.
    Mutual trust is not always easy to adopt. The other person may be disagreeable, unfriendly, unlikable, a rival, or do things which you oppose.It may require an extra measure of mental discipline to ignore the other person’s negative characteristics and identify the real person, the person of ability and basic goodness. You may be hurt occasionally by individuals who violate the trust placed in them.
"Leadership without mutual trust is a contradiction in terms."
Stephen Covey
    But the benefits of mutual trust is far outweigh the small number of incidents in which it proves difficult or a disadvantage.
  Mutual trust means each person having trust in the other. If you want to achieve this relationship with others then it must begin with you. You must be basically honest. Honesty crops out into sincerity. And sincerity is the mold for mutual trust. 
    Doctors must have sincerity to instill confidence in their patients; lawyers must have it to create rapport with clients; executives must have it to inspire employees; salespeople must have it to persuade customers to buy; great politicians have attracted votes with it. 
   Sincere people are those who have ideals, values, beliefs and conform to them. They project these characteristics to others.


Make it Easy for People to Work with You

    People are more effective, more energetic, when working with others they like. So you will get what you want out of life only if you are able to get along with people. Getting along with others means that they like you and will do things for you. In other words, they react positively to your personality. Your personality is nothing more nor less than your attitudes in action. It is the way you communicate your thoughts about others and yourself. Here are some tips  to make your personality pleasing, one that creates positive reactions in others:

1.. To have a friend, be one.
2. The greatest hunger that people have is to be needed, wanted, and loved. Help satisfy , those feelings in others. 
3. Don’t try to impress others. Let them impress you.
 4. Be kind to people. You can’t always love them, but you can be kind to them.
 5. Learn to like yourself. Others will respond to you the way you respond to yourself. 
6. Be enthusiastic. Nothing significant was ever achieved without enthusiasm-including deep, rich human relationships. 
7. Be positive. Positive people attract others; negative people repel others. 
8. Do things to make people feel important. Write a letter. Give a compliment. Say, “Thank you.” Praise. Encourage. Support. Cooperate. 
9. Sticking up for your “rights” is great, but do you always have to be right? Letting the other person be right once in a while will keep friendships warm. 
10. Be a good listener. You can have a greater effect on others by the way that you listen rather than by the way that you talk. 
11. Unless you can say something worthy about a person, say nothing. 
12. Call a person by name. Use it often in your conversation. 
13. Smile. Be pleasant. Talk about the brighter things in life. 
14. Avoid arguments. 
15. If you’re going to make fun of someone, make sure it’s you. 
16. Help people like themselves. The greatest compliment someone can give you is to say, “I like myself better when I’m with you.” 
17. Be genuinely interested in others. Get them to talk about themselves. Ask for their opinions, ideas, view points.


Admit Your Mistakes

      If you know the other person will admit being wrong, you feel more secure in that relationship. You have more trust in that person. Others will feel the same way about you if they know you are honest enough to admit it when you’re wrong.
     These words are wondrously refreshing and too little heard: “I made a mistake.” “I am wrong.”
“I admit I was in error.”
      What a rare quality that is in people! Especially if the admission was made about something that would not otherwise be noticed.

    Try saying to your family when you’re on the losing end of a discussion, “You are right and I am wrong!” 
    Step forward on your job and say, “I have made an error. I would like your advice and help to correct it!” 
    Try saying to your customer, “I don’t know,” or “This mistake is mine.” Don’t shift it on to the factory, the billing department, or that poor secretary trying to read your orders. 

Friday, September 7, 2018



Ten Suggestions for Understanding Others 

“I don't like that man. I must get to know him better.”         ― Abraham Lincoln

   Understanding is an attitude. You cannot go through life controlling situations, circumstances and people. But you can develop understanding. With an attitude of understanding your life becomes a more peaceful, harmonious experience. Here are ten suggestions for acquiring understanding.

1. Be Tolerant of Others. 
       Learn to be patient and tolerant of other people’s weaknesses, actions, and differences. All people are different from you. Simply because a person is a boss, iiiend, or one to whom you are married does not make that person like you. They are not going to act out the role of boss, friend, or married partner exactly the way you think it should be done. You may not understand why the other person acts as he or she does. But you can learn to tolerate that person and  that is the beginning of all understanding.

2. Accept The Differences In Others.
          Although we say “differences” we really mean imperfections. Because the ways that people are different might be viewed as their faults or weaknesses, you tend to unconsciously judge others. You judge whether or not they are doing something you like or dislike agree or disagree with whether they are right or wrong, from your viewpoint. Now if they do not measure up according to your judgment, you stop tolerating them and become irritated, upset, or frustrated. The challenge of forming an attitude of understanding is to have faith in people and believe in them. 
        Try to accept people as they are; avoid casting them in roles of perfection. Stop judging them. Learn to accept the ways that people are different from you.

3. Avoid Expecting People To Be Perfect.
        Have faith in people, believe in them, love them, like them, enjoy them but accept them the way they are! They come with a lot of good and a little bad; some positive and a little negative; always some plus and always a little minus.
4. Be Sure You WANT To Understand People.
       There are times when you find yourself criticizing another person saying you do not understand why that person acts that way. But perhaps you’re finding it easier not to understand that person. Perhaps you are envious, suspicious, or simply find it easier to dislike that person. As long as you want to be dominated by your own negative feelings, you will never learn to understand others.

5. Look For The Good In Others. 
       It is amazing how deliberately people seem to look for other’s negative characteristics. There seems to be a measure of delight in fault finding. Make an effort to identify with the positive qualities in people. If you have only positive thoughts of others you will really have no need for understanding. You have, in a sense, achieved it!

Also Read   ::  Stop Thinking Negative About Everything

6. Learn To Love The Unlovable
        The personable, popular individual with no irritating qualities presents no challenge to understanding. The challenge is to love the unlovable. It is difficult to understand the people who are rude, sarcastic, arrogant, surely and self-centered.It is difficult even to want to understand these people. It requires self-determination to understand that someone has hurt these people. Someone has made them feel unimportant and unwanted. So these are the people who need your understanding. And the reward will be yours for trying, because, in the process, you will be growing into a genuinely mature person. 

7.   Place Yourself In The Other Person’s Situation.
         In very few instances would you be irritated with another person if you really knew all the facts. And all the facts include an insight into all inner compulsions, needs, experiences, and the problems of others. 
      One of the characteristics of your imagination is its ability to place yourself in the other person’s situation. You can “imagine” how another feels. And that accomplishes much the same purpose as understanding. It gives a bond of feeling and compassion for others.

8. Control Your Attitudes.
         Always remember there is usually nothing in the other person’s actions that irritate you. It is your reactions that cause the negative feelings a the misunderstandings. Learn to control your “reactions” your attitudes to others -‘and you will automatically control your feelings.

9 .Develop A Mental Image of Understanding.
         Picture yourself as an understanding, patient, kind individual. Model your picture, if you wish, after an actual person whom you consider as having those characteristics. Hold that picture in your mind. Start acting out the image. Soon you will become that person!

10.  Use Positive Affirmations of Yourself  As An Understanding Person.
      The quality of our overall life is determined by how we feel, moment-to-moment.So one of our most important goals should be to use positive affirmations and all psychological positive thinking techniques available to keep ourselves thinking and talking about what we want and to keep our mind off of what we don’t want, or what we fear . Always tell yourself that you are an Understanding Person.
       Keep positive thoughts consistent  and keep your mind on what you want to do and the person you want to be.

Monday, August 20, 2018

How to Identify And Pursue Your Passions with Positive Thoughts

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How to Identify And Pursue Your Passions with Positive Thoughts

Discovering and claiming something you love to do has an amazing effect on your entire life.Many people will say they don't know what they want to do. If you give them suggestions they'll give you a long list of reasons why they can't do what they want to do - or what you suggest.
Their mind is filled with negative thoughts and they simply have a negative thought pattern that's become part of who they are.

Friday, July 13, 2018

"Failure is an event, never a person.” — William D. Brown

       Everyone hates to fail, but for some people, failing presents such a significant psychological threat their motivation to avoid failure exceeds their motivation to succeed. This fear of failure causes them to unconsciously sabotage their chances of success, in a variety of ways.

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

“Let us cultivate our garden.” ― Voltaire, Candide

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    We humans have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can be, we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness of others.Having a pleasant,engaging personality is significantly related to Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ). Those of us possessing high EI invariably have great personalities.
   The personality is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likable, interesting and pleasant to be with.Everyone wants to be attractive to others. To that end, having a good personality is vital - probably even more so than good looks.
  While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the ability to improve the personality as much as we want.